She says…..
Now that Mr Rocker has not so gently alluded to the fact
that our relationship has been “extended” somewhat, let’s not beat around the
bush any longer.
Yes, we still adore each other.
No, we are no longer mutually exclusive or monogamist.
No, we are not in any danger of falling apart.
No, it’s not cheap or trashy or sordid.
Yes, we are totally discreet and not forcing our unusual
lifestyle choice on anyone.
Yes, we are still one of the strongest couples we know.
These are the facts:
We both have a significant other in our lives. Let’s call them Jack and Jill for
simplicity’s sake. We all know each
other and get along famously. We spend time together, Jack and Jill play golf
together while Mr Rocker and I have a cuddle.
Nothing has changed about us except for the fact that we both have other
partners who have added much joy, humour and passion to our lives.
I have known Jack for eight months. We literally met across a crowded room and
made contact a few days later. The
attraction was instant. Have you ever met someone or made eye contact with them
and felt that kind of attraction? In the
“ordinary” world I have, but you brush this aside as it’s not acceptable to act
upon it if you’re married. Suddenly,
given the level of freedom and trust that Mr Rocker and I have bestowed upon
each other, this overwhelming attraction was there for me to take hold of and
see where it goes. And boy, has it gone
places…..
Jack is an absolute gentleman - funny, entertaining, kind
and hellishly sexy. Him and Mr Rocker have become firm mates too - what more
could a girl ask for? I am lucky enough
to be involved with two of the nicest guys you could ever hope to meet.
If I am so happy with Mr Rocker, you may ask, why do I have
this other man in my life? Good question. The answer?
Because I can! Loving somebody
enough to set them free to other emotional attachments is a foreign concept to
many (who am I kidding, foreign to most) but it has been a totally liberating
experience. Jack knows me as no one
other than for the woman he saw and was attracted to. No other perceptions of me, no other roles in
my life to consider, just pure attraction and affection. He asks nothing of me except my time and to
have fun with him. He also is hugely
respectful of my life and especially my relationship with Mr Rocker. Any involvement with him would not be
possible if he were any kind of threat to what Mr Rocker and I share. Mr Rocker
is my partner for life, and what a wonderful life it is.
We have known Jill for a number of years. She has always been on the periphery of our
circle of friends and she and I had business dealings. If I’d been the one choosing a partner for Mr
Rocker, which I certainly did not, a warmer, more free-spirited and fun person
I could never have found. They have the
most amazing chemistry. Watching it,
it’s almost as if you can reach out and touch it.
If we could bottle it, we’d be millionaires! An evening spent with them always leaves me
with cheeks aching from laughter.
Jill is
truly special and I’m proud to call her my friend. She has brought out the carefree, fun-loving
man that I met and fell in love with all those years ago but who has also
become my husband, father of my children and business partner. Every one of those roles has its
responsibilities and these of necessity change our relationship with our loved
ones. He is no less the man I love, but Jill
has given him back his passion. She asks
absolutely nothing of him other than to treat her well, laugh with her and keep
the good times coming. He adores her and
she feels exactly the same about him.
I have no doubt that Mr Rocker will be posting in response
to this and his perceptions will give more insight into this unusual
arrangement.
I also have no doubt that we will be hearing from shocked
friends (who have known nothing of this).
All I ask is that you tread lightly friends, this is not for everyone,
but it works for us.
When these relationships end, Mr Rocker and I will be there
to comfort each other and see what happens next.
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